Join the club

It started out as a joke when a room wasn’t available for the entire span of time that a guest wanted to book, necessitating a change of rooms during their visit.

“You’re joining the Sleep Around Club,” we’d tell them. “The elite club of people who have slept in every guest room at A Butler’s Manor.”

Then it became something we told repeat guests whose previous room wasn’t available for their requested dates. It was quite the inside joke: “You’re part of our Sleep Around Club now!”

Then last October as they said goodbye, lively repeat guests Joanne and Mark commented. “See you next year! It will be our final room for the Sleep Around Club!”

Sure enough! So when they booked their annual weekend getaway for October, we added a complimentary Celebration package to mark the occasion, and as usual, thoroughly enjoyed visiting with them during their stay.

“How many of us are there in the club?” Joanne asked, on checkout. “Maybe there should be a plaque!”

What a great idea. While a few repeat guests had laughed upon booking that they were continuing to add credits towards their membership in our Sleep Around Club, I actually hadn’t pulled up the records to ascertain just how many people there were in the club to date.

Now I have: There are seven esteemed members of the club, of which Joanne and Mark are now our most recent members. And there are twelve repeat guests who are one room away from the honor. (Think you’re one of them? Drop me a line and I’ll tell you which room you’re missing!)

To be clear, we are gratified by the return of many other repeat guests, some whom have come far more often than five times (since there are five rooms in the inn). Some have a favorite room. Others have specific requests, such as a tub, or a king-sized bed, or a third person traveling with them (automatically a Villefranche booking). But the members of the Club are largely comprised of those who have actively sought out a room new to them, just to experience A Butler’s Manor from a slightly different perspective. Since we worked hard to give each room its own personality, I appreciate their curiosity and confidence in us.

Yep, I’m going to order a plaque to hang in our upstairs hall to honor the few, the proud, the intrepid…the members of the Sleep Around Club at A Butler’s Manor!

Start (or continue!) your membership today by booking a visit! Join the club!

Bike to the Hamptons


You’ve been cooped up for lo, these many weeks and now–finally!–the weather and the COVID restrictions are such that you can dare to venture outside and breathe the air! And you’re considering a trip to the Hamptons. But oh, wouldn’t it be great to combine it with some well-needed exercise?

We’ve got an idea for you.

Gotham Bicycle Tours is a bicycle touring company located in New York City, and they’ve recently developed the Hamptons Bicycle Adventure: They tote your bags, provide the bicycles and the guides, and you pedal out to visit us in Southampton where you arrive feeling virtuous and ready for a dip in our saltwater pool.

Most Manhattan residents will note that if they were to actually ride out from NYC, they’d be facing a 90-mile ride. Probably way too much unless this is your passion. So Gotham has designed its Hamptons Adventure to start on Long Island, somewhere you can easily get to by train or car (and park there) and ride from that point. Are you up for 40 miles from Ronkonkoma train station? Prefer 20 miles from Westhampton? They are quite open to customization. Your bags arrive before you do, the bikes are picked up and you are free to enjoy the remainder of your time away with bicycles you can rent on-site from Pedal Share.

Or maybe you’d rather save the exercise for when you get here and have had a night’s rest: Gotham offers day trip excursions out to Montauk, or Amagansett, or Sag Harbor.

What if I get a flat? Or I just can’t make it that far? Or I got a cramp in my foot and need to stop? No problem: Gotham has drivers spotting you. Your only responsibility is to watch the road and enjoy the ride.

With each mile away from home, the scenery gets better, the air gets fresher, the noise quiets…Riding a bike to the Hamptons may be the perfect way to enjoy the outdoors after what seemed like an endless Spring in quarantine!


Hike the Hamptons, and Bounce Back in March!

wooden bridge into woodsIt’s been a mild winter on the East End of Long Island and though, as they say in financial advisor ads, “Past performance is not a guarantee of future returns,” we’re starting to hope that we might make it through March without the dreaded Winter’s Last Hurrah snowstorm.

As the Vernal Equinox (this year: March 19) looms in sight, I start thinking about lacing up the hiking shoes and looking for signs of Spring on the deserted hiking trails that ring the Hamptons. Because what can beat a peaceful walk in Nature with the one you love (and no one else around)?

Off-the-charts good hiking, with designated trails that range from one mile to over eight miles long, is the Mashamuet Preserve, which encompasses one-third (!) of Shelter Island, is especially comprehensive and scenic. Montauk’s Hither Hills and Walking Dunes trails are renowned especially for their contrast of woodland and dune trails that open onto spectacular ocean vistas, but Chris’s and my personal favorites are those in and around Northwest Woods in East Hampton. Want specifics? Check out a list here.

And if March conjures up imabasketball on empty outdoor courtges of basketball to you, we’ve got a new spin on the ball: MARCH MADNESS BOUNCEBACK! Join us anytime during the month of March, and for each night you stay, we’ll give you an envelope with a special prize inside which will be valid on a future visit in 2020.  Prizes include:

  • A bottle of champagne
  • Charcuterie board and wine
  • Set of 2 etched ABM wine glasses
  • ABM bathrobe
  • 20% OFF your stay
  • $100 off your stay
  • $250 off your stay
  • $500 off your stay

You’re guaranteed to win one of the prizes, but the catch is: YOU CAN’T PEEK! Bring back the unopened envelope on your next stay in 2020 and we’ll open it together to see your prize!

And finally, as to Erin Go Brach and the wearin’ of the green…if you want to get your St. Paddy’s Day on in a big way, join us the weekend of March 20-22. The Hampton Bays St. Patrick’s Day Parade steps off in that hamlet on Saturday, March 21, while the venerable Montauk St. Patrick’s Day Parade will celebrate on Sunday, March 22. (Hint: Leave your car at A Butler’s Manor on Sunday after check out and take the train to Montauk for the parade!)

Spring ahoy!bed of green clover for St. Patrick's Day

Valentine’s Day and Long Island Winterfest

With our house manager Deb McKay at the helm, A Butler’s Manor is open this winter and we’re pleased that guests have been enjoying the quiet beauty of the winter season with us. If you didn’t realize that you could get away to A Butler’s Manor in the offseason, I have two words for you: Valentine’s Day. It falls on a Friday this year and we look forward to helping you show that special someone a wonderfully romantic time! We’ll feature a split of champagne in your room along with a treat of petit fours and special flowers…just bring your true love. We have only a couple of rooms left for Valentine’s Day weekend, so book today!

people drinking wine at restaurant with wine barrelsAnd that’s not the only reason to visit this month. Long Island Winterfest kicks off this weekend — five full weeks of Long Island winery events, brewery tours, art shows, chef’s tasting menus, winter sunsets and live entertainment on the East End, from Greenport to Riverhead to Montauk. Hey, everyone knows the East End is great in the summer, but those on the inside track know how cool it is to enjoy all of the above without the summer crowds. A glass of Clovis Point’s Archeology while listening to the Hoodoo Loungers near the fire? Yes please!

And a taste of what we’ve got planned for March: MARCH MADNESS BOUNCE BACK! Watch this space for more information! (Or, if you can’t stand the suspense, click here to check our website for details!)

Come enjoy our “secret season” in Southampton! See you soon!

Kim, Chris, and Deb

The Gift of a Getaway at A Butler’s Manor (perhaps the gift you give yourself!)

Sign that says Collect moments, not things"The holiday season is stressful The perfect gift — do you order it online and hope it arrives in time? Do you brave the malls with all that traffic?

Here’s a suggestion: Give experiences, rather than goods. Time away is always special and never gets old. Wrap up a gift certificate for a stay at A Butler’s Manor, available in any amount. Let our special brand of silver service pamper your recipients (or maybe yourself!) during a rejuvenating visit to the Hamptons at the time of their choosing.

Last-minute panic? We can even email your gift certificate as late as December 23, 2019!

Call or email us today and let us take some of the stress out of your holidays!