Sentimental gentlemen

One thing that makes owning a bed and breakfast so rewarding is having repeat guests, especially those who celebrate special occasions with us and allow us, in a tiny way, to share in the joy of their lives.
Every so often, we get especially sentimental ones such as J, whose first trip with T was a weekend three years ago at A Butler’s Manor. Among their favorite recollections was their dinner at Tuscan House, one of our favorite Italian restaurants here in Southampton. The following year they celebrated their “anniversary of dating” with us, and this weekend they returned again on the same date. And over dinner Saturday night at Tuscan House, J proposed.
It’s special to see some relationships grow over time. Through their repeated visits, we’ve followed several couples from dating to engagement to marriage to the birth of their children, with all manner of life events in between. We’ve followed the lives of others whose children start and then finish college, as they plan the weddings, or welcome the first or the fifth or the tenth (!) grandchild. We’ve cried with folks who lose the spouse we’ve come to know…and rejoice to welcome some of them back with a new love in tow.
Proposals are especially exciting. Sometimes, as I’ve written on this blog before, the man enlists our help in setting up a location or decorating the guest room. Other times we enjoy the surprise along with the bride. Once, a couple who got engaged on the beach came across a large double clamshell that resembled a heart, and asked if we would boil it clean for them to take home and incorporate into their wedding.
Chris and I are big believers in celebrating all the milestones, even ones you invent just to make things cheers-worthy (first day of spring! got all the hostas divided!). We celebrate our anniversary of dating too, our wedding anniversary, and our half-anniversary (which falls on St. Patrick’s Day; that’s a story in itself), and all of the many milestones we’ve shared since opening A Butler’s Manor.
What a ring!
So I have a soft spot for the romantics. I love the folks who are celebrating the new job…getting into (or out of!) medical school…the last-chance-as-a-twosome “babymoon” prior to becoming parents…passing the bar…seeing the last child leave home….re-connecting with a long-ago love after a high school reunion.
Celebrate life, in any big or little way you can, as often as you can. Come see us–we’ll help you do it!
Quote of the day: A good life is a collection of happy moments.—Denis Waitley

Special occasions and seasonal rebirths

One of the truly joyous things about owning a bed and breakfast is when we get to participate, in a small way, in a special life event of our guests.

Such is the case today. Matt and Nicole are visiting from Canada, and somewhere in our fair village (or–chances are–the beach), Matt is planning to propose. So, in anticipation of a positive response, we’ve set up in their room a celebratory display of champagne, roses, and our seasonal favorite daffodils to welcome the newly affianced couple back. We’ll have the fire going just in case they feel like enjoying their champagne in front of it…We love days like this!

Speaking of the village, Spring is springing wonderfully here in the Hamptons. Here in Southampton, lots of stores and a couple restaurants are undergoing facelifts in anticipation of the summer season, including BookHampton, 75 Main, and Plaza Cafe. We visited with Chef Doug Gujila over dinner and love the cool new blue look of the main dining room…With handmade fish art by local wine merchant John Rist, it feels a little like the Caribbean.
Relocating from Water Mill, Muse has sailed over to moor on Main Street in Sag Harbor, and is now Muse In The Harbor. Chris and I went with friends to visit with Chef Matt Guffrieda and check out his shiny new digs, complete with a huge fish tank acting as a central room divider. I love Matt’s creative takes on food: my Tilapia Wienerschnitzel was scrumptious, and do not miss the Zeppole for dessert. Yum!
As usual, spring heralds the arrival of some new faces to our restaurant scene. In the old Post House location that housed Nello’s Summertimes is now Nammo’s, reportedly owned/operated by the folks who have run Trata in Water Mill these past few years. And over the canal in Hampton Bays, Chef David Hersh of Rumba fame plans to open a second, larger restaurant reportedly called Cowfish in the large, canal-front location that has housed Indian Cove for decades. I expect we’ll be one of the first in line to visit and sample his new menu.
So…waiting eagerly for the return of our young couple…will she say yes??
Quote of the Day: April hath put a spirit of youth in everything. ~William Shakespeare
UPDATE!!! Matt writes: “Everything went great … she said yes!  Thanks so much for all you did to make it so special for us,  We’ve had a great stay here to say the least.”